My Approach to Treatment
You’re in the Driver's Seat
My first responsibility to you as a client is my committment to leave you in the driver’s seat. I don’t tell you what to do. The most common feedback I get from clients when I ask what has worked for them has been “you told me that I knew what to do and that I could do it.” You are the expert on you, and the power of therapy comes from my curiosity about what it is like to be you rather than your dependence on my expertise.
Integrity
I believe you can only learn how to live an effective, passionate, and fulfilling life from someone who is doing the same. I am proud to report I have done my own work on myself as a man and as a partner in a committed relationship. I can only take you to places I have been myself. My vocation as a therapist includes constant attention to my own development as a person in the areas of health, wealth, community, intimacy and spiritual growth.
The Relational School of Psychotherapy
My approach to treatment is considered Relational. This means that I offer healing not through intellectual interpretations about your particular problem but rather through an interactive relationship that lets you be you — the old you, and the new you. Like a child of a single mother who is able to get fathering through male authority figures they encounter in school and other positive activities, clients are able to get mentorship from a therapist who is sensitive to this need. This means the therapist may be many different people to the same client — the father who can forgive yet lead with authority, the mother who can let go, the comrade who is your champion. A trained therapist is able to assess the appropriate stance for each client, rather than treating each client as if she needs the same medicine. For this reason, relational work is often considered “ethical ecleticism.”
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